Writers keep getting slammed down, but they keep getting up.
They have to.
You have to.
I have to.
We have to.
We are our own support group and we can help each other when we fall.
Not that we just fall, sometimes (often!) we are pushed by those ‘other’ people who just don’t understand what we are going through, what we are trying to do (the meanies!).
They just don’t get it so they dismiss it. Or ridicule it.
Or, and this can be even worse, they try to ‘help’ by telling us how bad it is and how we can fix it… in their opinion.
I’m not talking about editing. I’m talking about the disregard people can have for the creative process, the story, what is trying to be communicated. How brutal they can be in dismissing it as not worth telling. Not worth the effort of writing never mind reading.
We get knocked down a lot.
That’s how it feels sometimes. And yeah, it can feel like a whine. But who doesn’t need a moan now and again?
The best people to talk to about it, as with any experience, are those who can empathise. That would mostly be other writers.
I have a few friends who write in one capacity or another, and we can be a good ear for each other when one of us needs to talk.
I’m in a writing group that meets every two weeks, and I can talk to people there about the challenges of writing, both at the group and over email.
Occasionally I reach out on FB or on Twitter.
If you feel the need to talk, where do you go? Who to? Have you thought about developing a network?
Walking that tightrope between the arrogant (people will want to read what I have to tell) and the crippling lack of self-confidence (but everything I write is such a load of old shite!) is a tough balancing act. It’s cool to have people around to help us keep on keeping on.
Declaring ourselves to be ‘a writer’ paints a target on our backs. From time to time, we all need someone to help us find cover.