I’m sure we have all heard the saying, ‘anger is an energy.’
All emotions are.
With anger though the feeling of it being an energy is very immediate. Feeling it can cause us to do stuff, it energises us to action.
A lot of the time this action is not very well thought through. We just ‘do it’, driven by the anger, spur of the moment stuff. Thought comes later.
Being angry is a natural reaction to many things. The thing that angers us may move on, perhaps immediately or perhaps sometimes later, but we carry that anger with us and a quick way to diminish it, to escape from some if not all of it, is to pass it on.
We react angrily and we let some of it go.
Some people can be angry and not behave like this, they can absorb the anger, internalise it and then get it to evaporate through their deeper-nature. These people are scarce. I’m certainly not one of them.
Or rather I’m not most of the time.
As we get older we become more aware of the controls we have on our thoughts and behaviour.
We can take some control through that awareness. In my finer moments I can simply acknowledge things that make me feel angry or other negative emotions, and absorb them to be melted away in the subconscious and applied reasoning of my accumulated wisdom.
Sometimes. But not always. OK, it’s rare.
If there is an emotion that I want to spread in the world it certainly isn’t anger. To control my own thoughts and actions to reflect this is the goal. It’s not always the reality. And there are good ways to get angry, like reacting to a threat that can harm us or the ones we love.
Thinking about what energy I do want to be contagious, what I do want to spread in the world, is a tough one.
I’m not a woolly-minded hippy with visions of world-peace and love spreading from one simple act of kindness. But I do believe that every action that increases the happiness in the world also goes some way to reducing all negative emotions.
That’s actually pretty happyish, yeah, you got me there.
But none-the-less, that’s what I think and how I want to act.
At the end of any given year, thoughts turn to the coming year. We think about change. We reflect on the past. We have a focus on change and our part in it.
Wouldn’t it be great if we could all understand each other a bit better? If we could show a desire to increase understanding of difference as a positive thing? Wouldn’t it be great if we could all show less anger?
We all know it would.
We all know it’s a challenge that will sometimes defeat us.
But we all also know that shouldn’t stop us from trying.
Be happy. Make others happy.